Writing a beauty blog is fun, but it's not all about product reviews, sometimes I like to actually discuss beauty as a whole so here we go. We’ve all sat and looked at celebrities, friends or
even random girls and thought, I wish I looked even a little bit like her– if
you’ve never done this, please tell me your secret to being confident. Today I
am going to tackle this and explain why I think every woman should be confident
in her own skin. I am so glad that beauty is now appreciated in all shapes and
sizes, whereas it used to be very much the Marilyn Monroe figure, with women
actually sucking themselves in to teeny corsets and making them selves ill, in
order to achieve the perfect hourglass figure. (Correct me if I’m wrong, but
that’s what my history teacher told me). We then had the size 0 debate, with
many girls starving themselves to look like catwalk models, I recently read a
book about the fashion industry which quotes models saying that it’s normal for
them to pass out on a daily basis from a lack of food. I am going to discuss
this today in the hopes that this blog post will make at least one of you smile
and appreciate your own beauty, embrace and love yourself and be happy within
your own skin...
We've all had a moment where we lacked confidence,
maybe it was at the gym, in the school corridor or on your first day of work,
we're socially conditioned to feel anxiety in situations that (in hindsight)
are perfectly normal and trivial, like when I was in year 9, I was too nervous
to even walk across the corridor sometimes, hated eating in front of people due
to my braces and loads more trivial things. I often asked Google how to gain
confidence and every time it told me that confidence will come to you and
eventually, I guess it did.
Writing a beauty blog can be the ultimate
confidence killer, looking at stunning girls all day, we’re talking Rosie
Huntington-Whiteley, Kim Kardashian, being heavily involved in the online-world
and the media whilst being a lover of glossy magazines and instagram, means
that I expose myself to seeing stunning people all day every day. Every time
Kendall Jenner uploads a photo of herself on instagram I wish I could look a
teeny bit like her. This is where you’ve got to tell yourself that life really
isn’t that bad. We all have bad days, but as the saying goes, ‘if it’s not
okay, then it’s not the end’. There is always someone who is in a worse
situation than you and yes there will always be someone in a better one too so
you’ve got to tell your little pretty head (every single person is pretty in
their own way, yep you too, you reading this right now!) that every little
thing, is gonna be alright (even if you are having a bad hair day).
I always tell my best friend when she gets upset
about confidence/body etc, that at least she has a roof over her head, a family
who love and support her and is in good health - people would kill for that so
to embrace the brilliant life she leads, even if it may not seem so brilliant.
It may not look like you’re living a good life until you put it into
perspective, but if you write a list of the good things in your life and a list
of the bad, I bet there are 100 more good things than bad.
Let the good outweigh the bad. Don’t focus on the
bad, let yourself enjoy the good. It’s very hard to look at it like that
depending on how strong of a person you are but try writing a list of things
that you love about yourself: you’ve got great legs? Write that down and
appreciate it, if you’ve got it flaunt it. Most of the celebrities that we see
on the TV have a professional make up artist, hair dresser and someone who
airbrushes them after in the editing suite, so most of what you do see isn’t
actually real, it’s that old quote: ‘you will never look like the girl in the
magazine, the girl in the magazine doesn’t even look like the girl in the
magazine’.
You’ve got to embrace what you’ve been given and
not consume so much time on trying to change yourself. I love the quote that
says ‘don’t stop smiling, someone, somewhere is falling in love with your
smile’. Life isn’t all about looks, even though beauty blogs probably
make it look that way, it would be wrong to say that we don’t want to look our
best and make the best of ourselves, sometimes I know that I get myself worked
up if I’m having a bad face day, but it really isn’t the end of the world.
You can look at celebrities/models/beautiful people
and either take it positively or negatively, personally, I use these people as
inspiration (and I think that you should too). Instead of letting these
beautiful people get you down (you’re beautiful too), let these people lift you
up, if you’re envious of Kim Kardashian’s booty, go to the gym and do some
squats, I guarantee you won’t regret it. If you’re envious of Beyonce’s glow,
you can easily buy a highlighter to fake that look. Nobody is perfect and
no-one expects you to be perfect either, anyone who does expect you to be
perfect isn’t worth it.
I hope that this little rant about
beauty/confidence and body issues will make you think differently and realise
that you are beautiful, no matter what they say.
Now some quotes to lift you up, if you’re a keeno like
me, you can always search for quotes, they always seem to make everything
better when I’m having a bad day…What actually is beauty anyway? No one can
define beauty as everyone see's beauty as something different, so lets go with
this as the definition: Beauty is being the best possible version of
yourself, on the inside and the out.
Oh and PS. The best make up you can wear is your
smile and that’s coming from a beauty blogger. My boyfriend prefers me without
make up and now, I’m confident enough to prefer myself without it too, slowly
but surely, I’m scrapping that heavy foundation (on good confidence days
anyway).
I'd love to know your thoughts on this topic.
Lots of love, Em x
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